Scene Ideas Handout

Below are word clouds, feel free to cross out, circle or add words to help you brainstorm what you like either generally or for a particular scene

I want to play with you because….

  • You’re hot / I want to have kinky sex with you
  • I want to try something out and hope you’ll demo top/bottom for me
  • I want to practice a skill
  • I want to feel closer to you
  • I like our chemistry
  • I want to be challenged and win/lose/learn
  • I want to fulfill my/your/our fantasy

I want to feel like I am ….

Little Tough

Funny Bratty Ridiculous trouble

cute sweet

Good  Clever Pretty Strong

Loved Precious Innocent

Whore Dirty Slut 

Cumdumpster objectified weak dumb

I want you to act ….

Tough

Brutal

Serious

Fierce

Cruel

Stern

Kind Protective

Gentle Calm Masterful

Lenient

strict

Silly

Sarcastic

playful

angry

mean

I want our scene/ dynamic to feel….

Playful

Funny

Relaxed Empowering Genuine

happy

Degrading

Intense

Dark

Serious

Painful

Clinical

Fucked-up

Planned

Sensual

loving

Sweet

Sexy

Performative


Note: This hand out is intended to facilitate thinking about negotiating not just for actions but also emotions and goals around what the potential feeling of a scene might be